emphasize courtesy, the less courtesy

the last article mentioned that after the loss of benevolence, righteousness replaced it, what is righteousness? In the current concept, righteousness is a kind of moral code, which is not righteous and rich, and it is like a cloud to me. To be a man, we must be honest.
The difference between it and benevolence is that it can demand a return, and there can be an exchange of value between the two parties, altruistic and self-interested at the same time.
In order to ensure the realization of righteousness, some realistic codes of conduct need to be used, so that righteousness can be better promoted. This is the origin of etiquette. However, you cannot ensure that everyone abides by righteousness. Those who do not want to abide by righteousness, but because the public abides by righteousness, they have to pretend and engage in some formalism. What's more, they seek their own personal gain through these formalizations.
At present, if we deliberately emphasize etiquette and formalism, most people will only pay attention to the external and superficial kung fu and ignore the internal and external essence. Over time, they will only get farther and farther away from morality, benevolence and righteousness, resulting in the collapse of etiquette and happiness and the loss of human heart.